You are stronger than you know!
The Problem: A person gets almost all of their sense of value and self-worth from positive comments from their partner, which means that the person is constantly trying to get their partner to say positive things about them. The dependent person lives in fear that their partner will be interested in someone else or that they will leave them. The dependent person has a difficult time making a decision without a lot of support and confirmation from their partner. Openness and honestly are difficult to have in the relationship because the dependent person avoids disagreeing or arguing with their partner because they are afraid their partner will disapprove of, reject or leave them. They are then more “servants” in the relationship than “partners” because they are willing to do almost anything to get and keep their partner’s approval of them. Dependent people need constant reassurance from their partner, so they often contact their partner wherever the partner might be (at work, at appointments, with their families or friends), and they experience a lot of anxiety when the partner is not available to them. They often feel jealous of anyone their partner values or spends time with, even if it is family members, friends or colleagues. Dependent people tend to not be out of a relationship for very long because they can’t stand to be alone, so they go from relationship to relationship with not much time between relationships.
This course is designed to:
- Increase the dependent person’s sense of self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence, which will improve their ability to make decisions, feel secure and better tolerate times when they are alone
- Tolerate, without a lot of anxiety, the realistic times when their partners cannot be with them (such as when their partner is at work)
- Reduce how often the person contacts their partner, so that they contact them only when it is necessary
- Better understand and be all right with their partner spending time with other people, such as family, friends or colleagues
